You Are What You Believe
Some people are lucky. They have figured out how
to live their lives productively with peace of mind, contentment, and vitality. But most
of us aren't so lucky. We live with vague and empty feelings. We keep asking, is that all
We become frightened and uneasy because we know that we are not
living up to our potential, but we are at a loss when it comes to knowing what to do
to improve our lives. Most of us find that our lives are filled with contradictions.
We realize that we do things that don't make any sense, but when we look around us, we see
that everyone else is doing the same kinds of things, too.
To gain approval and acceptance, we choose to "go with the
flow" and be like everyone else. We smoke, drink, and eat too much. We become
involved in destructive relationships. We feel guilty, we worry, and we grow
anxious. We are stressed out and filled with regrets. Everything we do seems to lead
us into another double bind.
We look around and see that the world is filled with too many
questions for which we have no answers. Why is it easy to
predict some people’s behavior in certain situations? Why do
some people overreact in some situations and not in others? Why
do people remain stubborn for hours over the smallest issues or
refuse to listen to the sincere advice of a friend? Why are some
people rich and happy while others are rich and unhappy?
If the questions in the preceding paragraph seem pretty ordinary,
try these. Where was I before I was born? Why am I afraid to
die? Where am I going after I die and how do I get ready? And
what am I to do between birth and death? Will I live and die and
not leave a mark? Where is the delight in everyday living that I
experienced as a child? What happened to that happy, healthy,
joyful, and optimistic youngster?
Many intelligent people have studied these questions and
have figured out answers to them. They have discovered how to live life productively, and
they have published books that contain their knowledge and answers. But most of these
books are written at such a high level -- and in such jargon-ridden language -- that
we are unable to follow them. And what good are answers to the central questions of our
lives, if we can't understand the wisdom they offer well enough to use it?
You can spend years learning the terminology of each of these authors -- only to discover later
that they are all stating the same essential message: we are all programmed by consciously
and unconsciously observing events from which we create belief systems that automatically
and unconsciously determine our behavior. Furthermore, our behavior is an external
representation of our inner belief systems. Therefore, if you can change your inner belief
systems, you can change who you are and eliminate whatever behaviors are causing you to
suffer. Indeed, if you come to know your unconscious belief systems, you can understand,
explain, and control those bizarre behaviors that upset you and those around you.
It's that simple.
Working with a therapist can help
you understand these essential truths. But therapy is expensive and time-consuming. At
$150 per hour, you will go broke before you get better even if you see the doctor just
once a week! And what would your friends say if they found out that you were seeing a
Unlike therapy, which typically lasts only 50
minutes a week, you can use the information in this book every time something upsets you,
no matter when, no matter where. You and not your therapist will be in control of your
life.You can get better as fast as you want!
You can change your life dramatically in a matter
of hours. The more you use the techniques described in this book and illustrated on the
accompanying cassette tape to free yourself from unconscious belief systems, the faster
will peace of mind and contentment enter your life -- and the faster a much happier you
The best therapists can't compete with
you on the subject of knowledge of your life. A therapist has to guess what might be
behind your problem. Each one of us faces unique challenges on this Earth, and each of us
perceives every second of our lives in our own individual ways. Only you know exactly what
you are and how you got that way, and only I know exactly what I am and how I got this
way. Only you can help you, and only I can help me. We must search ourselves to know